Married, unhappy couples who want to set their marriages on fire once more have to learn to communicate all over again. This is especially true in situations where the spark has simply died, for whatever reason -- a stale sex life, the couple getting set in their ways. Here are two powerful techniques which a married unhappy couple can use --
1. Find Different Ways To Say "I Love You"
Every single day, let your creativity flow and figure out a different way to say "I love you" to your husband or wife. This can be verbal, visual or physical. Think small hand-written cards, short poem excerpts, a scene from a DVD. Anything and everything goes. Make it as fun as you can but ultimately express your love.
2. Write Down What You Like/Love/Cherish About Your Partner
Make a list, as long as you can, everything small, minor to the big things. Take your time, take a week if you have to. Then share a few with your partner when the opportunity arises. The idea is to have positive reflections you can use for the times when you feel like you hate each and have no idea why you married in the first case. These times will come so we're aiming at striking a balance here.
Unfortunately, communication is but just one element for a married unhappy couple who wants to save their marriage. Other fundamentals include sorting out differences, dealing with outside parties, money and careers. Making the effort to work on the marriage is key. Where you lack knowledge, go out and seek resources, could be books, helpful websites from the Internet.